12 True Behaviors that Expose Liars « Leadership Freak

12 True Behaviors that Expose Liars « Leadership Freak

12 True Behaviors that Expose Liars

By Dan Rockwell
http://leadershipfreak.wordpress.com

Robert Feldman of the University of Massachusetts reported, “Women were more likely to lie to make the person they were talking to feel good, while men lied most often to make themselves look better.”

All managers and leaders hear lies because people tell them what they want to hear.

12 behaviors that expose liars:

1. Pausing while speaking
2. Less physical contact and creating physical barriers between them and the person they are talking with
3. Touching their face (especially the nose)
4. Defending themselves without being attacked or questioned (defensiveness)
5. Repeating questions
6. Avoiding contractions. “I did not.” Cp. “I didn’t.”
7. Avoiding eye contact or establishing uncomfortably long eye contact
8. Facial expressions are limited to the mouth; eyes remain neutral
9. Looking down and to the right indicates an internal dialog in the listener
10. Looking up and to the right indicates a person is tapping into their imagination
11. Avoiding direct answers
12. Changing the subject

Be careful:

Don’t assume someone is lying based on body language, verbal signals, and eye movements. You should have a baseline before making judgments. For example, are pauses a normal speech pattern or an anomaly.

Confirm your suspicions by:

1. Asking more questions; the truth will come out
2. Considering motivations: who’s winning/losing – what are they protecting
3. Confronting the liar – sometimes they will come clean

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More on lying:

Lying at work (includes five ways bosses can get to the truth)

The first lie I told at work (my story of lying to my boss)

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http://leadershipfreak.wordpress.com/2011/06/17/12-true-behaviors-that-expose-liars/